Relationship-repair

Qualifications

I am a licensed Ph. D. Psychologist and hold memberships in The American Psychological Association, The New York Psychological Association, and the Ameican Academy of Psychotherapists.

Practice Description

Is your relationship with your partner, spouse, significant other hurting you in some way? Has this pain, anxiety, depression, anger, despondency, feelings of helplessness, been too long lasting? Call or email me. Even if one of you is more motivated to consult a professional than the other, that's OK; rely on that energy for one of you to make the call for the sake of your relationship. My experience is that I am generally able to help couples understand each other, and begin to recognize and even employ some solutions within a handful of sessions.

Your issues may be that your partner is inattentive - doesn't listen to you, or certainly without enough empathy. This may make you feel unimportant and lonely. Your partner may not reveal enough of himself or herself; you don't get enough of a front row seat to their emotional workings to really know them and feel as close to them as you want to. This may make you feel cut off and lonely. Your partner may have needs that are really big, and turn from requests to demands to accusations that you're uninterested, that you don't care enough, that you are being covertly hostile, passive aggressive, etc. This may make you feel guilty, angry, like running away, becoming cold, even numb.

Your partner's emotional energy may be taken too much away from you, by children and/or career. You may have tried to keep up, to do the work of taking an active, thoughtful interest in your partner's other world, and not gotten the connection you wanted. This may make you feel unimportant, left out, maybe depressed. By way of protecting yourself, you may think of living more independently from your partner, by establishing strong connections with other people, activities and interests. Underlying all of this may be the awareness that your primary relationship doesn't feel like it's working.

Additional Information

I have been in the practice of psychotherapy for 35 years. I will devote care and interest to your problems, and utilize all my training and experience to promote your mental health, and the psychological health of your relationship. Whenever possible, I'll help you search for humor.